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Amp up your manifesting abilities by avoiding these 3 mistakes, so you can get the outcomes you want more quickly and easily.
You know you’re making these manifestation mistakes if you’re:
- Working hard in your business and still not making as much progress as you’d like.
- Taking lots of action and feeling all over the place.
- Quick to get started on ideas, but before you know it, you’re stopping and moving on to something else.
- Not satisfied with the number of clients, customers, number of sales or amount of money you want to have.
Of course it’s normal to find yourself in any one of these circumstances, but when you become aware, you have the power to change things.
Let’s dive into each of these mistakes, so that you can learn to easily spot them and pivot into the direction you want instead!
Mistake # 1
Spending more of your time focused on your current reality, instead of on what you want.
This mistake may sound like:
“Things are slow to progress in my business.”
“I’m not booking enough sales calls.”
“Getting consistent clients is a lot of work.”
Focusing on thoughts like these keep you in a lack mindset and feeling the absence of your desire, which only blocks you from opportunities and growth.
What can you do instead?
NOTICE when you’re having thoughts that are going against what you want and take a PAUSE. Then BREATHE and SHIFT your focus onto what you want and how you want to feel.
Skipping this step is where most people go wrong!
Abraham says, “You have creative control of your own experience. And, by paying attention to your own Emotional Guidance System, you can change your point of attraction.”
Bottom line? Make how you feel your top priority because you’re attracting with how you feel.
Mistake # 2
You have conflicting beliefs- In other words, the belief you have NOW and the belief that supports your desire do not match!
This means you’re caught in a tug of war between not wanting what’s happening right now in your life, and desiring what’s “over there” in your future.
This may sound like:
“I want to make more money.”
Inner dialogue- “I’m uncomfortable asking for the sale.”
“I want to make a bigger impact.”
Inner dialogue- “I’m not ready yet. I need to learn more. I have to start or finish my website first.”
Remaining in this tug of war results in you pushing away what you say you want and blocking the opportunities that will actually move you ahead.
So what can you do instead?
Notice when this inner dialogue comes up because those subconscious thoughts are your hidden obstacles that are keeping you from having what you want.
Then pause, breathe, and reframe those thoughts so that they are in alignment with what you want to achieve.
Mistake # 3
You’re focused more on taking ACTION!
Many focus on actions to take thinking that’s what will create what they want, rather than on doing the inner work of installing the NEW BELIEFS that will get them there!
Yes, you heard me right!
Focusing on the ACTIONS or STEPS you need to take to achieve what you want will NOT always get you there.
How many people do you know who work hard and are always showing up and taking steps to move the needle forward in their career or business, but for some reason they just can’t seem to gain traction?
Fear or doubt around actually getting what you want is usually the culprit for this one.
For example, let’s say:
Your goal is to leave your 9-5 job and be solely in your business.
BUT you believe that money comes from a paycheck. You also value stability and certainty.
Well since your values drive your behavior, you will not take the actions to actually leave your 9-5 job. After all, there is no certainty or guaranteed stability in being an entrepreneur as you don’t have the guaranteed paycheck!
This results in you taking actions but not actually making the progress you’d like, so you end up spending a lot of time working and don’t have the results to match.
What can you do instead?
Begin to change at your core level or at the level of your identity.
To do this you must change your thoughts and some of those long-held beliefs that limit you. You have to begin to think, feel, and BECOME the person who already has what you want.
Once you change your thoughts and beliefs, you’ll naturally take different actions and get different outcomes!
Now you know the 3 mistakes that block money and success, and more specifically, prevent you from manifesting the clients, sales, money and other outcomes you want.
So what is it you want to create?
And before you answer, know that there are 2 very important things that determine the outcome you get.
Your thoughts and how you feel about what you want.
“What you think about you bring about and what you feel will reveal.”
Here’s 3 questions you can ask yourself to help you keep your focus on what you want and help you feel good.
What do I want?
Why do I want this?
How will it make me feel?
Keep asking yourself these 3 questions every time you become aware that you’re not happy or satisfied with what’s currently going on in your life or business.
Doing this will also help you expect and allow the very things you want.
Abraham says, “If you’re not expecting it, you’re not allowing it.”
Desire + Belief = Manifestation
This is the formula that will move you towards your desired result with more speed and ease!